Meet OP (28F), who is preparing for her wedding with her fiancé (27M). She comes from an upper-class background, while her fiancé's family is lower-middle-class.
Despite being able to cover all the wedding costs herself, the OP's parents gave a significant gift equivalent to 70% of the wedding expenses, approximately 30K (fictitious value). The fiancé's parents, upon learning about the OP's parents' gift, decided to contribute 3K as their gift.
The conflict arises over the OP's unconventional wedding choices, such as not having a traditional white dress and opting for a smaller, non-religious ceremony. The fiancé's mother, in particular, strongly disapproves of the non-white dress.
During a family event, the fiancé's mother persisted in criticizing the OP's choice of a non-white dress. The situation escalated when the mother openly stated that, the bride and groom respected their parents' opinions, especially when they helped pay for the wedding.
Frustrated and angered by the continuous criticism, the OP reached her limit and publicly handed over the money that the fiancé's parents had gifted.
The fiancé understands the OP's frustration but suggests that handling the situation privately might have been a better approach. The conflict exposes the clash of values and expectations between the two families, with the OP's unconventional choices causing tension and misunderstandings.
Is OP the AH in this case? Let's find out!