Struggling Wife Seeks Advice As She Contemplates Divorce From Husband Of 16 Years, But He Is Holding Her Financial Hostage

OP's husband refuses to work, so OP went to college to escape financial instability, relying on student loans and accumulating $20K in debt

OP, despite working 40 hours and facing financial struggles with a single income for six people, is discouraged by her husband from seeking overtime or a new job

OP faces a disagreement with her husband over childcare and feeding choices, leading to frustration and a desire for divorce

OP's husband consistently refuses to take the kids to activities, make doctor appointments, or cook dinner, leading to frequent arguments

OP and her husband, four years ago, had their house bought by her late father-in-law and husband jointly. They also bought a house for her brother-in-law, and they pay the property taxes and electric bill for it

Despite the houses being paid off, the OP bears the financial responsibility for both properties

Despite the OP taking on loans for their teenager's braces and a toddler's hospital bill, her husband prioritizes renewing his medical marijuana card over their child's orthodontic appointment

OP's husband, formerly an alcoholic, has displayed verbal and occasional physical aggression

Overwhelmed by financial burdens and enduring verbal abuse, the OP expresses a desire for divorce

OP, living far from family, seeks advice on her options for a divorce and potential relocation with her children

OP hopes to recoup her financial investments in the property for a possible down payment on a new house post-divorce

OP is uncertain about her financial future after divorce

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