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  1. OP does a job that pays five times more than his wife's and is low stress, so he rarely disrupts their routine.
  2. OP's wife has a demanding and stressful job with an overbearing boss, working 45-50 hours a week, leading OP to handle most household responsibilities
  3. During an on-call week, OP's wife received a work request after hours
  4. OP, faced with an urgent work issue requiring immediate attention during his on-call week, clashed with his wife who insisted her work matter took precedence, resulting in a heated argument
  5. OP's wife spent the night in her locked bedroom without attending to the kids' dinner or bedtime routine
  6. OP was not wrong and the fact that his wife neglected the kids is such a red flag
  7. It's unacceptable and irresponsible when she left their kids hungry
  8. OP's wife should change her job and her attitude as well
  9. OP should convince his wife to leave her job as she's getting abused at her job
  10. OP should take his wife to a therapist
  11. "Having a childish tantrum in her room and ignoring the kids is unacceptable"
  12. OP should prepare with savings/ insurance in case something happens
  13. OP had advised his wife to look for another job but it was unsuccessful
  14. "She seems dead set on staying at her current job"
  15. This job seems to be very important to OP's wife
  16. Because OP's on-calls are not regular, hiring a nanny is unnecessary
  17. A regular nanny might help OP's wife with household chores
  18. OP has no problem with cooking or cleaning, the main point is that his wife could give him a few hours every few months for him to focus on this job
  19. If she lost her job, probably not so much

Husband And Wife Spar Over Which Job Is More Important After Husband Finds Their Kids Neglected

Balancing work and family life is a tricky skill that takes years to master, especially when you've got a family of your own. On the r/ AmIthe A**hole subreddit, a husband (OP) posted a story about his wife neglecting their kids' meals and sleep by staying in the locked room.
As shared in the post, the OP has a chill job that only needs him for about 35 hours each week, plus one week a month on call. His wife, though, deals with a stressful job, working a solid 45 hours a week. Her boss enjoys throwing around unnecessary tasks as a way to show who's in charge.
Living in a pricey city, the family relies on OP's income, which is about five times more than what his wife brings in. Together, they manage a comfy life. Since OP's job has fewer hours, he takes charge of daily chores like cooking, cleaning, and looking after the kids. Even during his on-call week, he keeps things running smoothly, ready to switch gears if work calls.
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Usually, when work stuff comes up, OP can handle it in a few hours, not causing much chaos at home. But this time, things took an unexpected turn.
When the OP told his wife that he received an urgent work call that needed him at the office, she said her thing came first. They then had a heated argument. She locked the door and stayed in the locked room without caring for their kids.
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Wife neglected their kids Source: Google Images (not the actual photo)

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OP does a job that pays five times more than his wife's and is low stress, so he rarely disrupts their routine.

OP does a job that pays five times more than his wife's and is low stress, so he rarely disrupts their routine. Source: Unique_Confusion9528
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OP's wife has a demanding and stressful job with an overbearing boss, working 45-50 hours a week, leading OP to handle most household responsibilities

OP had to handle most household responsibilities Source: Unique_Confusion9528
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During an on-call week, OP's wife received a work request after hours

During an on-call week, the OP's wife received a work request after hours Source: Unique_Confusion9528
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OP, faced with an urgent work issue requiring immediate attention during his on-call week, clashed with his wife who insisted her work matter took precedence, resulting in a heated argument

a heated argument Source: Unique_Confusion9528
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OP's wife spent the night in her locked bedroom without attending to the kids' dinner or bedtime routine

OP's wife spent the night in her locked bedroom Source: Unique_Confusion9528
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OP was not wrong and the fact that his wife neglected the kids is such a red flag

OP was not wrong and the fact that his wife neglected the kids is such a red flag Source: PhilosopherInside956
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It's unacceptable and irresponsible when she left their kids hungry

It's unacceptable and irresponsible when she left their kids hungry Source: PhilosopherInside956
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OP's wife should change her job and her attitude as well

OP's wife should change her job and her attitude as well Source: Upstairs-Banana41
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OP should convince his wife to leave her job as she's getting abused at her job

OP should convince his wife to leave her job as she's getting abused at her job Source: cliopedant
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OP should take his wife to a therapist

OP should take his wife to a therapist Source: HelenAngel
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"Having a childish tantrum in her room and ignoring the kids is unacceptable"

"Having a childish tantrum in her room and ignoring the kids is unacceptable" Source: Opposite-Guide-9925
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OP should prepare with savings/ insurance in case something happens

OP should prepare with savings/ insurance in case something happens Source: TwoCentsPsychologist
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OP had advised his wife to look for another job but it was unsuccessful

OP had advised his wife to look for another job but it was unsuccessful Source: Unique_Confusion9528
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"She seems dead set on staying at her current job"

"She seems dead set on staying at her current job" Source: Haughtscot
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This job seems to be very important to OP's wife

This job seems to be very important to OP's wife Source: Low-Total9121
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Because OP's on-calls are not regular, hiring a nanny is unnecessary

Because OP's on-calls are not regular, hiring a nanny is unnecessary Source: oy-cunt-
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A regular nanny might help OP's wife with household chores

A regular nanny might help OP's wife with household chores Source: oy-cunt-
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OP has no problem with cooking or cleaning, the main point is that his wife could give him a few hours every few months for him to focus on this job

OP has no problem with cooking or cleaning Source: oy-cunt-
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If she lost her job, probably not so much

If she lost her job, probably not so much Source: IHaveSaidMyPiece

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