Is This Dad Wrong For Telling 9 Y.O. Daughter The Truth That He Had No Idea She Existed Because Of Her Mom's Abortion Lie?

Leona Martinez
Dec 05, 2023
Dec 05, 2023

On the r/AmItheA**hole subreddit, a dad (OP) posted a story sharing that he recently found that he has a daughter named Kara after thinking she didn't exist for nearly 20 years.

He explained that 19 years ago, he and his ex broke up before she knew that she was pregnant. She told him that she planned to get an abortion but only wanted her sister there. But a month ago, he found that that was a lie. His ex passed away, and his daughter has lived with her uncle.

Now, the OP wants to be part of his daughter's life. The uncle agreed to let him meet his daughter with the condition that he wouldn't tell her the truth about her mom's deception. But when he met his daughter, he told her everything, including the reason why he wasn’t in her life. That led to intense emotions and unexpected consequences.

Did he do the wrong thing? Scroll down to read the entire story and share your opinions with us!

Is This Dad Wrong For Telling 9 Y.O. Daughter The Truth

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So now the OP is asking...

OP and his ex broke up before she knew she was pregnant. So the ex planned to get an abortion but only wanted her sister there

OP and his ex broke up before she knew she got pregnant. So the ex planned to get an abortion but only wanted her sister there

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19 years later, OP found that his ex passed away and his daughter has lived with her uncle

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His daughter is unaware of the situation

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OP met his daughter

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After revealing the truth, the OP expressed a sincere desire to be in her life as her father

Source: barelydad

OP faced backlash from his daughter's family after revealing the truth about her mother to her

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People commenting agree that the OP is not in the wrong for revealing the truth and the uncle's attempt to keep the lie going is unfair

Source: Reddit User

How sad it is that the daughter grew up thinking her father wanted nothing to do with her, only to later discover it was due to a lie

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OP shouldn't have to create false narratives and pretend emotions to uphold the ex's lies

Source: Vivid_Intention

Those who deceived the daughter are to blame

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OP affirms that he would have been part of his daughter's life had he known about her

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His ex is responsible for the situation

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It's impossible to build a strong relationship on a lie

Source: TwoCentsPsychologist

The daughter deserves to know the truth

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The uncle and grandparents were the ones who lied and denied him a relationship with his daughter for 19 years

Source: DaiZzedandConFuZed

Ever been in a tough spot where telling the truth felt tricky, but you knew it was necessary for building real connections? What do you think about the dad's choice to spill the 19-year-old secret to his daughter, and how would you handle a similar situation?

Share your thoughts and experiences—we're keen to hear your take on dealing with tricky family situations!

Is This Dad Wrong For Telling 9 Y.O. Daughter The Truth That He Had No Idea She Existed Because Of Her Mom's Abortion Lie?

So now the OP is asking...

OP and his ex broke up before she knew she was pregnant. So the ex planned to get an abortion but only wanted her sister there

19 years later, OP found that his ex passed away and his daughter has lived with her uncle

His daughter is unaware of the situation

OP met his daughter

After revealing the truth, the OP expressed a sincere desire to be in her life as her father

OP faced backlash from his daughter's family after revealing the truth about her mother to her

People commenting agree that the OP is not in the wrong for revealing the truth and the uncle's attempt to keep the lie going is unfair

How sad it is that the daughter grew up thinking her father wanted nothing to do with her, only to later discover it was due to a lie

OP shouldn't have to create false narratives and pretend emotions to uphold the ex's lies

Those who deceived the daughter are to blame

OP affirms that he would have been part of his daughter's life had he known about her

His ex is responsible for the situation

It's impossible to build a strong relationship on a lie

The daughter deserves to know the truth

The uncle and grandparents were the ones who lied and denied him a relationship with his daughter for 19 years

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