"What Made You Realise Your Best Friend Was Actually A Complete Jerk?"
In the world of friendship, the bonds we form with our closest companions are meant to be a source of comfort, trust, and support. However, life occasionally takes unexpected turns, and sometimes, these very relationships that once brought joy can take a shocking twist. In this captivating account, we explore the personal stories of individuals who have experienced a rude awakening, realizing that their so-called "best friend" was, in fact, a complete jerk.
From subtle signs and hints to more blatant acts of disrespect, the journey of recognizing and coming to terms with this unsettling truth unravels a plethora of emotions, reflections, and the quest for self-discovery. Join us as we delve into these captivating narratives that shed light on the complexities of human relationships, reminding us that even the strongest bonds can sometimes reveal unexpected darkness.
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Source: Reddit
#1.
Source: 7grendel
When she told me she was cheating on her husband and then I found out she was cheating with MY husband.
#2.
Source: GuyMansworth
When he got his girlfriend pregnant he got 6 weeks of paternity leave. He lived with me and she had her own place. For months after the child was born he sat home taking advantage of his paid vacation playing 10 hours of video games a day while she struggled with the child.
#3.
Source: almost40f*ckit
She bought me alcohol for valentines when she knew I wanted to try to stay sober. We divorced, I’m sober three years now.
Lost my best friend but gained the rest of my life.
#4.
Source: pu**yslayb***h
Looking back on it, a red flag was when they insulted my mothers cooking. My family isn’t very wealthy but my mother does her best and she had worked hard to make that meal so they wouldn’t be hungry. And then they just insulted it. Also they never said thank you.
Unless it’s got worms in it, you just don’t say anything bad about a meal someone took the time & care to prepare for u as a guest.
And it wasn’t even a simple “I didn’t like it very much” They straight up made fun of my mom and called her a terrible cook (which btw, she isn’t)
#5.
Source: downwithwindows
When she threw a s**t-fit after I said something along the lines of—“if he cheats on his wife with you, what do you think is going to stop him from cheating on you with someone else?”
Apparently I’m not supportive?
#6.
Source: EmperorMrKitty
I was poor and in college, I had the flu really really bad one week and asked my friend (he lived in a dorm across the hall) to go to the convenience store in the dorm lobby and get me something to drink and he could get whatever for himself too. He got me my soda and himself $40 worth of snacks. Didn’t notice at the time and I ordered us a pizza, he knew it was all I was going to have to eat for the next few days, and he snuck into my room and ate the leftovers while I was passed out on cold medicine.
I didn’t even really know how to respond. Like I was already buying him snacks and feeding him… he had a meal plan on campus (I didn’t)… why act like that?
#7.
Source: Moos_Mumsy
When she moved in with her boyfriend who didn't like dogs. At first her 2 collies were locked in the basement. Rarely taken for walks. Instead they would just spread newspaper on the floor and switch it out when it was saturated. When the older of the 2 collies died, the remaining dog was banished to a small corner of the backyard chained to a doghouse. She didn't even go outside to feed her, but threw her food out of a window onto the ground. Only went out every other day or so to refill the water dish and pick up poop.
She argued with me that all of the dogs needs were taken care of and she was fine. I draw the line at animal abuse - no one who I call a friend treats an animal like that. That's when I stopped being her friend. Haven't had any contact since.
#8.
Source: Majestic-Peace-3037
When my ex turned violent and I ended up running to live in a literal tent in the woods as I had no money, a lot of my "friends" suddenly stopped talking to me. Only TWO stuck around.
F**k all of those a******s who discarded me the second I was in dire need and trouble.
#9.
Source: stardewsundrop
Oof I have a couple. Tbf I wasn’t hanging out with good people back in the day, and it took me a long time to accept I wasn’t a good person back then. After a lot of self reflection I see my wrongs and theirs but:
She constantly mocked my insecurities and appearance under the guise of teasing, however it was definitely malicious at the extent she did it. I never once mocked her like that, always tried to hype her up. When my hair started thinning due to a medical condition and she mocked me that was the final straw
Another one was in a bad spot and I helped them out with money as much as I could. One day she asked for a good chunk and I simply didn’t have it, i was living off of beans and rice until my next paycheck, if I’d had it she would have gotten it. She got so mad she told a bunch of very personal things to others and completely stopped talking to me. Later found out she was on meth at the time and that might be why
And lastly was the one who turned a blind eye to her husband being physically and emotionally abusive to their children. Wouldn’t leave him because she said that she couldn’t handle the idea of being a single mom. Sometimes you have to put your kids lives first and swallow your pride. Had to cut her out after that, and let the proper authorities know
#10.
Source: BBTIV
This will get buried, but it’s my time to shine…
Best Friend of 30 years.
Gets a girl pregnant at 21. They get married. Have the baby. He gets mad at someone at work and walks out, with a newborn at home.
My stepdad hires him, even though he doesn’t really have any skills, nor is there a position for him. Works there for a long time. Learns well. Does a great job. Gets promoted often and is paid well.
Covid happens. Stepdad files for some PPP. In the course of the paper work they found out my best friend. Who had been treated like a son (better than me at times) had embezzled roughly $100k over three or so years.
Not my best friend anymore.
#11.
Source: sleepingfox307
Probably when my gf at the time admitted to sleeping with him and my three other guy friends while we were together.
Not in an embarrassed way either, she was throwing it in my face to hurt me.
I hoped against my own instincts that it wasn't true but I asked him and knew instantly from the look in his eyes that it was.
Basically lost my whole friend group overnight, but... ended up finding *much* better friends in the long run.
It all works out.
#12.
Source: raalic
For a long time, I thought that my best friend was an a*****e for kicking me out of the apartment we shared (he was the leaseholder) in college. In reality, I was a horrible roommate who partied too much and didn't clean up after myself. I was the a*****e.
#13.
Source: TopShelfCrazy
It was when I started living with him. You get to see how someone really is when you cohabitate.
#14.
Source: bearcat-twenty-two
When I realised that I was an alcoholic and needed to make a life change and his response was to say ' who am I going to drink with now?'
#15.
Source: Neat_Resolution6621
He would be a good friend to me in private situations, but when we were in groups or in front of total strangers, he would turn on me and try and embarrass me. After 2-3 years of it, I decided he would be better out of my life and haven't spoken to him for over 15 years.
#16.
Source: Alert-Cranberry-5972
I happily watched her son while she and her boyfriend went to Jamaica for 10 days. He was an awesome teenager and we had great fun. It added 45 minutes to my work commute each way, but it was fine. They were due to return and I was going home.
Then I got a call that something happened and their return was delayed. She couldn't give me details, but would tell me when they got home. I had no answers to give her 14 year old son for his concern. There were no phone calls to him from his mom.
They returned 12 days later than anticipated. I learned a couple of days later, after we had time alone that she and boyfriend tried to bring ganja back with them (through the Miami Dade airport, no less).
I lost all respect for her as a single parent. Her actions were incredibly selfish considering her son still needed raising. She had no family near by that could raise him and she could have been fired.
The nail in the coffin was when I asked for my then BFs camera back, she went on a horrible racist rant. She said she left it in the rental car, went back to retrieve it and "that fu*#ing ni@+#r cleaning the car must have stolen it". I simply told her that she needed to replace the camera.
I cried that day for the loss of the friend who I loved and respected.
#17.
Source: ForcyBo
Easy.
When I went on a family vacation with him and his family. Seeing how he treated his partner, how out of control his kid was, and how much of a lazy and selfish c**t he was.
Eye-opener.
#18.
Source: thejourney_89
When I trusted and believed he was like a brother only to have him steal thousands of dollars from me. The money didn’t even matter but the treason hurt for years.
#19.
Source: SebasVillalba98
He started manipulating women into "romantic relationships" just to be a dog with them. He was unfaithful to all of them, and when I asked him why he was doing that and if he felt no remorse, he just answered that: "it isn't wrong unless they find out", so I immediately stopped trusting him.
#20.
Source: Beneficial_Affect522
Over time we lost contact, then she only reached out when she needed money. I let this go on too long until I found out I was pregnant with my first, and told her then I wouldn't send any money after that. She still asked, my daughter is now over 1.5 yo, and she had never even met her. I ended up blocking her and telling her not to bother trying to reach out anymore.
#21.
Source: subrhythm
I'd gotten use to the cycle of him getting a new partner then disappearing until things went tits up and I'd help him pick up the pieces.
We went through the cycle many times, whatever he needed I always had his back, of course when I was at my lowest ebb, really having
a really f*****g tough time I let him know and he said he'd try to find some time to hang out. The only thing I'd ever asked of him, of course
he vanishes again until his next relationship blew up, he called not long ago, I didn't bother getting back to him.
#22.
Source: brthrck
When they were extremely rude to a guy who had a learning disability
#23.
Source: Ancesterelj
When he complained and got a server at Texas Roadhouse "fired" over a $2 shortage...and was laughing and bragging about it. Like, it made him feel good / important that he cost someone their job.
As a side note, we are no longer friends and, about 2 weeks later, we (me, my wife, and daughter) had the same server at the same Texas Roadhouse.
#24.
Source: Auniqueusername1983
Realizing I am always there for them but it is never reciprocated or even acknowledged or even feigned interested in any thing I am doing in life.
#25.
Source: ToadofToadsHall
He and his brother destroyed an apartment we shared.
Some 30 thousand in damage, then tried to come after me for it.
#26.
Dude went around starting rumors that I was saying I was going to kick this dude's a*s. I had no idea, until I'm walking through the hallway and I get suckerpunched in the back of the head by this dude yelling about how I'm talking about kicking his a*s.
Pretty much wrote this guy off at that point.
Years later, well into our 30s, and this guy is still a super douche. The kind of guy who's always bragging about how much money he makes and cars he owns and all that kind of stuff. We're facebook friends for whatever reason, and I happen to make a post about how I was in line to see Star Wars: The Force Awakens and I managed to not get spoiled. His comment, while I'm walking into the theater, is a screenshot of Han Solo with a lightsaber stuck through his gut.
Haven't talked to that guy since then.
#27.
Source: ehwhoknowss
If my guy best friend was interested in a girl or was talking to one, he would treat me like absolute garbage
When he had no girls to talk to or was interested in, he would be super nice to me and hang out all the time
A few years after we graduated high school, we were with a group of friends when he basically said “I’m only nice to girls if there’s a chance I can have sex with them or there’s no other girls in the picture” it all clicked
#28.
Source: HoneyBunYumYum
She was negative about everything and wanted people in her life to suffer and fail… including me. Also would say horrible cruel judgmental things about everyone in her life and blame everything outside of herself for her unhappiness. What started as a ohhh she’s my b****y blunt sassy friend who’s like Daria.. ended as oh my goodness wait.. you are genuinely a miserable extremely lost (mentally unwell) person who gets joy watching others suffer.
She works as a princess character at Disneyland by the way. Despises when the children ask for a hug or want to touch her. Hates children. But loves the makeup and wigs and having her picture taken. Cosplay type stuff.
#29.
She would get belligerent, loud, and annoying when she was drunk. She cheated on her husband with a guy from work. She was also a bridezilla at her wedding reception. The final straw: I can’t remember what topic was, but she posted something on FB that ended with “if you disagree, feel free to block me” and I commented “ok” then blocked her everywhere I could.
#30.
All we ever talked about was her - how she hated being single, who she dated, how jealous she was of other people with partners. She skipped my dad's funeral. She ignored my housewarming party. She'd ignore me for weeks at a time, then suddenly call me up crying because she got dumped.
I drove her to surgeries and sat waiting to drive her home. Watched her kids. Sat through a hundred weepy nights.
Then she found a relationship. I have seen her 1x in the past 9 months (because I invited her to get together) and haven't heard from her in 3. I guess she must be happy now, doesn't need me to be a shoulder to lean on.
She wasn't ever interested in being a friend to me. I was just someone to cheer her up when she was feeling down.