The r/relationship_advice subreddit is a group for those who "need help with their relationship." Recently, one Redditor, under the username u/throwawayfmlol, posted his struggles when encouraging his wife to go back to work and ask the online community for advice: "I honestly don't know what to do. Anyone have this experience before? Help..."
The OP explained that he and his wife initially decided that his wife would stay at home and raise their children. However, as the years passed and circumstances evolved, the OP couldn't afford the financial charges on his own anymore. So, he told his wife that she should apply for a job and go back to work, but she refused.
As the financial burden has been 'tough and stressful', the husband got frustrated.
Scroll down to read the entire story and dive into the discussion to explore different angles and how others have tackled similar challenges.
Source: Reddit
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The OP asks:
Source: throwawayfmlol
OP and his wife decided for her to stay home and raise their children, causing a 50% income loss while expenses are rising and OP can't afford on his own
![OP and his wife decided for her to stay home and raise their children, causing a 50% income loss](https://aubtu.biz/medias/15/2023-11/0-0-wife-decided-not-to-go-back-to-work-2.webp)
OP is feeling frustrated and resentful towards his wife for not returning to work
![OP is feeling frustrated and resentful towards his wife for not returning to work](https://aubtu.biz/medias/15/2023-11/0-0-wife-decided-not-to-go-back-to-work-3.webp)
Redditor suggests the OP straightforwardly communicates to his wife about the financial reality
![Redditor suggests the OP straightforwardly communicates to his wife about the financial reality](https://aubtu.biz/medias/15/2023-11/0-0-wife-decided-not-to-go-back-to-work-4.webp)
Redditor advises the OP to consider moving the children to public school if the wife is unwilling to work
![Redditor advises the OP to consider moving the children to public school if the wife is unwilling to work](https://aubtu.biz/medias/15/2023-11/0-0-wife-decided-not-to-go-back-to-work-5.webp)
This Redditor also agrees that OP should consider putting the kids in public school to alleviate financial strain
![This Redditor also agree that OP should consider putting the kids in public school to alleviate financial strain](https://aubtu.biz/medias/15/2023-11/0-0-wife-decided-not-to-go-back-to-work-7.webp)
Redditor suggests proposing long-term substitute teaching jobs for the wife
![Redditor suggests proposing long-term substitute teaching jobs for the wife](https://aubtu.biz/medias/15/2023-11/0-0-wife-decided-not-to-go-back-to-work-6.webp)
This person shares a similar experience
![This person shares a similar experience](https://aubtu.biz/medias/15/2023-11/0-0-wife-decided-not-to-go-back-to-work-8.webp)
OP should assert the importance of their agreement with his wife
![Redditor advises the OP to assert the importance of their agreement](https://aubtu.biz/medias/15/2023-11/0-0-wife-decided-not-to-go-back-to-work-9.webp)
OP should consider his wife's potential fears or self-doubt after being out of the workforce for 8 years
![his wife's potential fears or self-doubt](https://aubtu.biz/medias/15/2023-11/0-0-wife-decided-not-to-go-back-to-work-10.webp)
This Redditor reassures the OP that the situation is not his fault
![This Redditor reassures the OP that the situation is not his fault](https://aubtu.biz/medias/15/2023-11/0-0-wife-decided-not-to-go-back-to-work-11.webp)
Have you been through a situation like this? How did you handle it? Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments. Let's create a supportive space where we can learn from each other.