On the r/AmItheA**hole subreddit, a 25-year-old guy—let's call him the OP—shares the tough story of his parents' marriage falling apart during his mom's serious illness.
It all started when his dad suddenly announced he was in love with a younger business partner and wanted a divorce after 26 years together. The shock was even bigger because the dad's new partner was pregnant with his child.
With the divorce on the horizon, the OP had to take charge as the legal representative for his sick mom, dealing with medical stuff and tough choices.
Things got more complicated when the dad, who initiated the divorce, struggled to handle both the imminent loss of his wife and the birth of his child with the new partner.
As the mom's final days came, the situation got more intense. The OP had to decide if his dad should be allowed to see her, causing mixed opinions from friends and family. If you want to know more, keep reading.
Let's dig into the details:
OP's father unexpectedly sought a divorce due to falling in love with his business partner, who later gave birth to his child
OP's mother, diagnosed with a terminal illness, was cared for by her children. The father absent during her critical moments until a plea for blood donation prompted his return
OP denied their father the chance to see their unconscious mother one last time before her passing
OP's decision was supported by the entire family
OP and his siblings have accepted the permanent loss of both parents and have no intention of pursuing a future relationship with their father
Commenters agrees with the OP's perspective
The father should not experience relief for causing her pain
Such actions can be considered love
OP did the right thing if they believe their mother wouldn't have wanted to see him
Commenter expresses agreement with the OP's actions