This dad (OP) and his son are having a bit of a disagreement. The son just finished college and wants to go far away for his master's degree. While the OP suggested a more affordable option, his son insisted on doing what he wanted.
Now, the son, who doesn't have a job yet, asked the dad to help with the rent by being a guarantor on the lease with two other roommates. What do you think the father did? He said no because he got worried about essential financial issues, and this upset both the son and the dad's wife. What happens next?
Was the OP in the wrong? Keep reading for the whole story. And share your thoughts with us in the comments!
So now the OP is asking...
![Dad Says No To Be Guarantor On The Lease For Son With Roommates](https://aubtu.biz/medias/15/2023-12/0-0-guarantor-for-childs-apartment-1.webp)
OP's son chose to pursue a master's program far from home to experience life independently
![OP's son chose to pursue a master's program far from home to experience life independently](https://aubtu.biz/medias/15/2023-12/0-0-guarantor-for-childs-apartment-2.webp)
OP's son wanted the OP to be the lease guarantor for his accommodation, but the OP declined
![OP's son wanted the OP to be the lease guarantor for his accommodation, but the OP declined](https://aubtu.biz/medias/15/2023-12/0-0-guarantor-for-childs-apartment-3.webp)
It's okay to help with rent, but being the guarantor for everyone is unreasonable
![It's okay to help with rent, but being the guarantor for everyone is unreasonable](https://aubtu.biz/medias/15/2023-12/0-0-guarantor-for-childs-apartment-4.webp)
If the son can't afford his desired lifestyle, he should consider a different one
![If the son can't afford his desired lifestyle, he should consider a different one](https://aubtu.biz/medias/15/2023-12/0-0-guarantor-for-childs-apartment-5.webp)
The son should get a job so everyone can cover their own rent
![The son should get a job so everyone can cover their own rent](https://aubtu.biz/medias/15/2023-12/0-0-guarantor-for-childs-apartment-6.webp)
The son seems to be relying on the Bank of Dad to fund his life
![The son seems to be relying on the Bank of Dad to fund his life](https://aubtu.biz/medias/15/2023-12/0-0-guarantor-for-childs-apartment-7.webp)
It's insane
![It's insane](https://aubtu.biz/medias/15/2023-12/0-0-guarantor-for-childs-apartment-8.webp)
If the son's friends lack a guarantor, he should find different roommates
![If the son's friends lack a guarantor, he should find different roommates](https://aubtu.biz/medias/15/2023-12/0-0-guarantor-for-childs-apartment-9.webp)
Exactly on point!
![Exactly on point!](https://aubtu.biz/medias/15/2023-12/0-0-guarantor-for-childs-apartment-10.webp)
![](https://aubtu.biz/medias/15/2023-12/0-0-guarantor-for-childs-apartment-11.webp)
![](https://aubtu.biz/medias/15/2023-12/0-0-guarantor-for-childs-apartment-12.webp)
![](https://aubtu.biz/medias/15/2023-12/0-0-guarantor-for-childs-apartment-13.webp)
These are useful details
![These are useful details](https://aubtu.biz/medias/15/2023-12/0-0-guarantor-for-childs-apartment-14.webp)
Both the OP and the son as having valid reasons
![Both the OP and the son as having valid reasons](https://aubtu.biz/medias/15/2023-12/0-0-guarantor-for-childs-apartment-15.webp)
For the son to be independent, he must also take responsibility for himself
![For the son to be independent, he must also take responsibility for himself](https://aubtu.biz/medias/15/2023-12/0-0-guarantor-for-childs-apartment-16.webp)
It's not a situation you would get involved in
![It's not a situation you would get involved in](https://aubtu.biz/medias/15/2023-12/0-0-guarantor-for-childs-apartment-17.webp)
What do you think about the OP's situation? Should he reconsider being a guarantor for his son with two other roommates? Have you been in a similar spot with family and housing? Share your thoughts and experiences—I'd love to hear what you think!