Redditor u/aitadaig shared a story on r/AmItheA**hole, asking for opinions on a parenting situation. The OP and his daughter often change massage before bed, but one day he didn't find any messages from her.
Being worried, the OP decided to intervene, which caused tension with the stepdad and disagreement with the mom about the unplanned visit.
As the story unfolds, the OP and the other parents have different views on handling the situation. Readers are intrigued by the complexities of co-parenting, communication challenges, and balancing rules with a child's well-being.
To explore the details and see what the community thinks, keep scrolling down.
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Here's the full story:
Source: aitadaig
OP and his ex split custody of their 13-year-old daughter. OP bought a phone for her to stay in regular contact and shares updates about the cats when at her mom's
![OP bought a phone for her to stay in regular contact](https://aubtu.biz/medias/15/2023-11/0-0-daughter-concerning-message-2.webp)
OP dropped off his daughter at school, her mom picked her up as usual, and although he texted on and off during the day, the daughter didn't message before bed, which felt odd to the OP
![the daughter didn't message before bed](https://aubtu.biz/medias/15/2023-11/0-0-daughter-concerning-message-3.webp)
OP contacted her mom without a response, drove to his ex's place, and found their daughter okay
![OP contacted her mom without a response, drove to his ex's place](https://aubtu.biz/medias/15/2023-11/0-0-daughter-concerning-message-4.webp)
OP went to pick her up from her mom's, but the stepdad confronted him, asserting it was not his week for custody
![OP went to pick her up from her mom's, but the stepdad confronted him](https://aubtu.biz/medias/15/2023-11/0-0-daughter-concerning-message-5.webp)
The daughter was on an "electronics detox," and when she sneaked her phone to text the OP, but got caught
![The daughter was on an "electronics detox"](https://aubtu.biz/medias/15/2023-11/0-0-daughter-concerning-message-6.webp)
OP confronted his ex about the unauthorized "electronics detox"
![OP confronted his ex about the unauthorized "electronics detox"](https://aubtu.biz/medias/15/2023-11/0-0-daughter-concerning-message-7.webp)
His ex suggested using the house or work phone, but OP found it impractical
![His ex suggested using the house or work phone, but OP found it impractical](https://aubtu.biz/medias/15/2023-11/0-0-daughter-concerning-message-8.webp)
OP's parents sided with the mom, suggesting he should trust his ex's judgment
![OP's parents sided with the mom, suggesting he should trust his ex's judgment](https://aubtu.biz/medias/15/2023-11/0-0-daughter-concerning-message-9.webp)
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