Mom Asks If She Was Wrong For Asking Her SIL To Plan Kid-Friendly Hangouts For Her 3 Kids

Emily Mahboobeh

Choosing to have kids is a massive life decision, but it can be frustrating when child-free friends and family members express zero interest in sharing the joys (and challenges) of having children around. For example, if all your friends want to go to a winery for a relaxing and peaceful day but you can't find a babysitter, should you suggest a loud and chaotic trip to the local Chuck E. Cheese instead?

So, when a frustrated single mom decided to consult the moral compass of the internet, otherwise known as Reddit's 'Am I the As*hole,' about hanging out with her sister-in-law, people were ready to hear the family drama.

Have a read for yourself; it's juicy, and there's definitely a lot to think about here.

OP asks:

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OP is a single mother of three kids, with her husband not in the picture since the youngest's birth, and she is very close to her brother, continuously striving to maintain a similar relationship with her SIL, his wife.

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OP's SIL frequently invites her to gatherings, but the problem OP has with these events is that all the activities are geared towards adults, with none of them being child-friendly.

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At a family BBQ, OP's SIL invited her to visit a museum out of town with her and a friend. OP hesitated and asked for time to think.

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Then OP mentioned she would be happy to jump on if they could arrange some kids-friendly activities every once in a while.

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OP’S brother an AH for trying to modify his wife’s plans, plans in which his wife tries to involve her all the time.

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OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole:

No doubt about it, this post went viral faster than a sneeze in a crowded room, and boy, did it catch everyone's attention! Here are some of the responses it received:

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OP should be thankful they're still considering her as an individual person instead of just a mother.

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OP are an AH for suggesting modifications but she could try approaching her brother to take the kids somewhere else.

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However, many people believe that the OP is not the AH in this situation. One user commented:

To which this user agrees:

And this user, too.

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So, there you have it. Most Reddit users agreed unanimously here that this single mom is, unfortunately, in the wrong about this. Clearly, her sister-in-law and her friends don't want to change their dynamic to accommodate children, especially when none of them are also parents.

But what are your thoughts on this, and how would you deal with the situation?