The young man who reported his dilemma on Reddit is a lifelong cat owner who places great importance on their bond with their furry friends. However, their girlfriend is not a cat parent and appears to have strong opinions about the OP’s friendship with their cat, Lilly. For the young couple, things had been getting tense for a few weeks, but things really heated up after Lilly just gave birth to kittens. Naturally, OP was pleased and posted a picture online expressing their happiness at being a cat father to all those adorable young kittens. On the other hand, his girlfriend wasn’t exactly thrilled.
She apparently thought that OP was being creepy by referring to himself as their dad and by calling the kittens babies. She was so irritated with it that she even had the bravery to accuse him of being selfish for posting a photo of his own kittens.
He then posted the entire episode to the r/AITA subreddit
It all starts off innocently enough, but if this girlfriend really loves this guy, why does she seem so worried? Is she concerned that he has an unbridled love for animals, and she thinks he won’t have enough for her? I just don’t feel right about the whole situation, and we’ll wait for a decision later on. However, something about the whole thing smells of jealousy.
That’s all he did, post a picture online? Despite her boyfriend’s declaration, she threw a fit and left the house because she didn’t like the idea of him calling himself a cat father. Here’s a hint – if he’s an excellent cat parent, he probably also would make an excellent real parent. Pulling all this nonsense looks like she’s going to lose a good one.
And in response to the story, here is what people were saying
Some Reddit users’s hearts ache for the girlfriend’s open relationship, she doesn’t have a spark in her soul and is too concerned about what other people think. They also put a spoiler that she should live her best life due to no one would care what she thinks.
There is also a gross perspective, but one worth considering, is that this girlfriend is irrationally envious of the cat, or more specifically, she is envious of your love for the cat and its elevated status in the boyfriend’s life. She sees it as a rivalry for her boyfriend’s attention, so she’s arguing with him and makes crude remarks in an effort to get him to downplay how much he loves the cat so she can feel like she’s the Most Important One.
Others warned red flag to this toxic relationship due to girlfriend used toxic masculinity to try and box in the boyfriend in her life.
That’s some pretty controlling behavior, as the majority of commenters noted. Her remarks are also likely the result of misdirected jealousy or an incorrect comprehension of how OP can love both her and the kitties at the same time. What do you say? Please share with our community in the comment box below!